????妄自尊大

????將自己的成就與同事和高層分享，這么做對(duì)于我們獲得認(rèn)可非常重要。但你的做法是否得當(dāng)就在一線之間，原則是，永遠(yuǎn)不要夸大其詞，也不要搶走團(tuán)隊(duì)的功勞。

????這種平衡同樣適用于人際交往。幫你找到工作或更深入了解一個(gè)行業(yè)的快樂(lè)不足以維持長(zhǎng)期的交往或?qū)熽P(guān)系。要尋找機(jī)會(huì)報(bào)答自己的商業(yè)關(guān)系戶，就算是從很小的或者不相干的方面給出回報(bào)也可以。

????“深諳人情世故的人都知道，人際交往必須互惠互利。你幫助了別人，別人總能找到辦法回報(bào)你，”弗里德曼表示。“可能完全不著痕跡。比如你的孩子要去參加野營(yíng)，而你曾經(jīng)幫過(guò)的人恰好在負(fù)責(zé)看管營(yíng)地。每個(gè)人都能不動(dòng)聲色地為別人提供方便?！?/p>

????永遠(yuǎn)不要用“不值得去做”作為拒絕一個(gè)項(xiàng)目或一項(xiàng)工作的理由。

????梅爾徹說(shuō)：“要么接受，要么直接拒絕。我聽(tīng)說(shuō)有年輕人在被要求接受某項(xiàng)任務(wù)時(shí)會(huì)說(shuō)：‘我認(rèn)為這項(xiàng)任務(wù)不能很好地發(fā)揮我的才能?！灰@么說(shuō)。你的工作就是做好每一項(xiàng)任務(wù)，而不是你認(rèn)為自己喜歡做的部分。主觀的權(quán)利意識(shí)在很短時(shí)間內(nèi)就能毀掉一個(gè)人的聲譽(yù)?！保ㄘ?cái)富中文網(wǎng)）

????譯者：劉進(jìn)龍/汪皓???

????Overstating your importance

????It's important to share our accomplishments with colleagues and higher ups so that we get recognition. But there's a fine line to toe on this front. You don't ever want to exaggerate or claim credit for a team effort.

????This balance extends to networking. The joy of helping you find a job or learn more about the industry is rarely enough to sustain a long-term networking or mentor relationship. Look for opportunities to give back to your business contacts, even in small or unrelated ways.

????"Someone who is a bit savvy understands it has to be a two-way value proposition. There's always something someone can do to help you back," Friedman says. "It can be as innocent as your kids are going away to sleepaway camp and she's looking at camps. You can offer value that's not always obvious."

????Never refuse a project or work detail by saying you think it's beneath you.

????"You either say yes, or you say no the right way. I've heard of stories where younger people will be asked to do an assignment and they'll say, 'I don't think this is a good use of my talent.' Don't do that," Melcher says. "Your job is to do the job, not just the parts of it you feel like doing. Having a sense of entitlement will kill your reputation faster than anything else."??