????我在灣區(qū)的三家生育診所接受了治療，這個過程持續(xù)了七年時間。在我40歲之前，每一次努力都以失敗告終。營利性診所兜售著做一名媽媽的感人承諾，結果卻帶來了一次次流產(chǎn)和毀滅性的、揮之不去的絕望，我又花了十年時間才完全恢復。不幸的是，我的經(jīng)歷并非個案。全世界每年約有150萬人嘗試IVF，其中有120萬遭遇了失敗。

????與其爭論員工福利的優(yōu)點，不如關注一下如何讓醫(yī)生、患者和服務提供商負起責任。他們的行為越來越不負責任或不道德，最終卻往往由無知或天真的患者承擔后果。

????在考慮這項新福利的時候，雇主們最好更嚴格地篩選生殖技術提供商，因為許多人打著科學發(fā)明的和潛在新市場的旗號，兜售生殖治療技術，卻忽視了最基本的醫(yī)療行為準則：不要對患者造成傷害。

????不幸的是，在硅谷乃至全世界抱有雄心壯志的年輕女性，都要接受一次深刻的生活教訓；在生育選擇方面，成功的機會非常渺茫。（財富中文網(wǎng)）

????本文作者帕米拉?馬奧尼?提格蒂諾思來自風險資本與科技行業(yè)。她還撰寫了一部獲獎作品：《沉默的女生聯(lián)誼會》（Silent Sorority）。她的作品曾發(fā)表于《紐約時報》與《郝芬頓郵報》。她的專欄文章“兜售生育的白日夢”（Selling the Fantasy of Fertility），獲得美國全國女性政治黨團會議（National Women’s Political Caucus）2014年媒體特殊貢獻獎（Exceptional Merit in Media Awards，EMMA）提名。

????譯者：劉進龍/汪皓

????This venture spanned seven years with three Bay Area fertility clinics. Every effort, before I turned age 40, resulted in failure. The dazzling promise of motherhood sold by for-profit clinics led to miscarriages and devastating, prolonged despair, which took me another decade to fully reconcile. My experience, unfortunately, is far from unique. Around the world, an estimated 1.5 million each year attempt IVF and 1.2 million fail.

????Rather than debate the merits of employee perks, energy would be better directed at holding to account those doctors, clinics and service providers engaging in increasingly irresponsible or unethical behavior–often at the expense of uninformed or na?ve customers.

????In the pursuit of new perks employers would do well to apply more scrutiny to reproductive technology vendors who, in the name of scientific invention and potential new business markets, push to sell treatments while losing sight of the most basic code of medical conduct: do no harm.

????Unfortunately many ambitious young women on Silicon Valley campuses and in workplaces around the world are going to learn a hard life lesson; when it comes to fertility options, the odds are rarely stacked in their favor.

????Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos works in the venture capital and tech sectors. She is also the author of the award-winning book, Silent Sorority. Her work has been featured in The New York Times and Huffington Post. Her op-ed, “Selling the Fantasy of Fertility,” was nominated for a 2014 Exceptional Merit in Media Awards (EMMA) by the National Women’s Political Caucus.