????聽到這個(gè)理由后，我立刻不耐煩地回答道：“你應(yīng)該早點(diǎn)兒告訴我?！蔽矣孟喈?dāng)嚴(yán)厲的語氣提醒她別忘了我們告訴她的那些女性科學(xué)家。我甚至問我妻子能不能把女兒的選擇改成和科學(xué)、技術(shù)、工程或數(shù)學(xué)有關(guān)的題目。妻子告訴我，來不及了。

????現(xiàn)在我意識(shí)到，我本該早早地問問女兒她想選哪個(gè)課題。由于沒有這樣做，我讓過時(shí)的社會(huì)風(fēng)氣對(duì)她產(chǎn)生了影響，卻沒能幫她“向前一步”，選一個(gè)她喜歡的課題。女兒對(duì)科學(xué)的看法受到了一種思維定式的蒙蔽，我卻沒能打破這種思維定式，甚至對(duì)這樣的情況所知甚少。可靠的研究表明，父親的作用能讓女兒接觸到科學(xué)、技術(shù)、工程或數(shù)學(xué)，這讓我備感自責(zé)。對(duì)于這個(gè)錯(cuò)誤，我能找出很多借口。比如，女兒做出選擇時(shí)我正在出差；古代文明是個(gè)好題目；多學(xué)幾門課是明智之舉；她只有10歲；明年還有機(jī)會(huì)；我們是人，因此容易受到下意識(shí)思維傾向的左右，諸如此類。

????但所有這些借口都不能掩蓋這樣一個(gè)令人不安的事實(shí)：雖然我有這樣的意識(shí)和打算，但面對(duì)有可能阻礙這些小女孩涉足科學(xué)、技術(shù)、工程或數(shù)學(xué)領(lǐng)域的情況時(shí)，我沒能預(yù)先采取措施。不過我也看到了一線希望。這個(gè)錯(cuò)誤不光讓我得到了一個(gè)尷尬的教訓(xùn)，它還給了我們這個(gè)家庭一次絕佳的機(jī)會(huì)，從而讓我們共同就一個(gè)重要問題進(jìn)行深入的思考。通過這件事，我們將來可以更多地探討下意識(shí)思維傾向和有害的思維定式。

????誰知道呢，在犯了這個(gè)錯(cuò)誤并從中吸取教訓(xùn)后，也許今后我們就有可能避免更嚴(yán)重、影響更深遠(yuǎn)的錯(cuò)誤。另外順便說一下，這個(gè)問題似乎已經(jīng)得到了解決。女兒告訴我她發(fā)現(xiàn)古代文明“有點(diǎn)兒枯燥”，她覺得自己應(yīng)該選一個(gè)和科學(xué)、技術(shù)、工程或數(shù)學(xué)有關(guān)的課題。而這就是她明年夏天的計(jì)劃。（財(cái)富中文網(wǎng)）

????譯者：Charlie

????On the spot, I responded in an impatient fashion: "I wish you had told me this before," I said to her in a rather stern tone, reminding her about all the women scientists we had exposed her to. I even asked my wife if we could change our daughter's choice back to a STEM subject. Too late, my wife told me.

????I realize now that I should have asked my daughter much earlier about her upcoming choice of topic at camp. As a result, rather than help my daughter "lean in" and pursue a topic she loved, I allowed outdated societal modes to distract her. I failed to counter, much less acknowledge, a stereotype that clouded the lens through which my daughter viewed science. And I feel doubly bad given the solid research that speaks to the role that fathers can have in influencing their daughters' approach to STEM.

????I can make lots of excuses for my slip. I was traveling when she first made the choice; ancient civilization is a good topic; subject diversification is wise; she is only 10; there is always next year; we are human and easily fall victim to unconscious biases, etc.

????Yet none of these excuses speak to an inconvenient truth: Despite my awareness and engagement, I stumbled when it came to preempting a bias that risks derailing girls from STEM fields at an early age.

????There is a silver lining here. The slip-up has more than taught me an embarrassing lesson: It has afforded our family a great opportunity to think, collectively and deeply, about a really important issue. As a result, we will be having even more discussions about unconscious biases and damaging stereotypes.

????Who knows, by making and learning from this mistake, maybe a potentially a bigger one with longer-lasting ramifications will be avoided down the road. And by the way, it looks like things are working out. My daughter told me that she found ancient civilization "a little boring" and she wishes she had taken a STEM course. Next summer, that's her plan.