人際智商決定職業(yè)生涯
????我們大多數(shù)人都希望順順利利地度過(guò)每一個(gè)工作日。畢竟,我們中很少有人會(huì)主動(dòng)找人扯皮打架。 ????盡管如此,跟同事相處可不像公園漫步那般愜意,而這種緊張關(guān)系會(huì)影響我們的工作表現(xiàn)。有時(shí)候,我們部門(mén)中某位員工根本就不適合從事手頭那份工作——他們?yōu)槿烁】?,生性挑剔,缺乏興趣,平庸無(wú)能,催生出一種有可能拖垮每一個(gè)人的有毒環(huán)境。 ????大家不妨思考一下這個(gè)例子:在一家公司,由于長(zhǎng)達(dá)一年的招聘凍結(jié)期,幾個(gè)工程團(tuán)隊(duì)的人手嚴(yán)重不足。工程師們勞累過(guò)度,CEO擔(dān)心他們可能無(wú)法按時(shí)完成任務(wù)。于是,這家公司就成立了一個(gè)跨團(tuán)隊(duì)委員會(huì),以便決定如何公平地把新員工分配給相關(guān)團(tuán)隊(duì)。然而,這個(gè)委員會(huì)的負(fù)責(zé)人是一位有獨(dú)立見(jiàn)解的工程師,出了名地喜歡爭(zhēng)辯,批評(píng)他人。所有委員非常輕松地就首位新員工應(yīng)該被安排在哪里達(dá)成共識(shí),但隨后就出現(xiàn)了問(wèn)題。這位首席工程師希望把下一個(gè)新員工分配給一位得意門(mén)生負(fù)責(zé)運(yùn)營(yíng)的不太重要的團(tuán)隊(duì);其他委員表示反對(duì),他們認(rèn)為這樣做將會(huì)使組織失調(diào)。這位工程師沒(méi)有選擇讓步,而是分頭找?guī)孜晃瘑T談話,充滿敵意的爭(zhēng)辯口吻讓這幾位委員覺(jué)得他想一手遮天。委員們花了一些時(shí)間討論他的行為,有幾位還因?yàn)檫@件事夜不能寐。就這樣,一件原本簡(jiǎn)單的事情被搞得混亂不堪,耗費(fèi)了大量寶貴的時(shí)間。 ????再看看另一個(gè)例子。在一家制藥公司,一位負(fù)責(zé)研發(fā)工作的科學(xué)家聘請(qǐng)了一位化學(xué)師。來(lái)公司時(shí),她帶著幾位前同事撰寫(xiě)的一組熱情洋溢的推薦信,起初看起來(lái)也確實(shí)很有才華。但大約一個(gè)月后,這位新員工的表現(xiàn)就只能算是勉強(qiáng)合格。這位上司明確指出,她的表現(xiàn)差強(qiáng)人意,遠(yuǎn)未達(dá)到他的期望值。她解釋說(shuō),她知道自己掉隊(duì)了,但會(huì)迎頭趕上。不幸的是,這個(gè)問(wèn)題隨后仍然存在。最終,上司召來(lái)人力資源部一位同事與她談話。經(jīng)過(guò)一系列交談,這位化學(xué)師開(kāi)始承認(rèn),她已經(jīng)對(duì)自己的工作失去了興趣,需要做出改變。被勸離這家公司6個(gè)月后,她加入了另一家公司的營(yíng)銷(xiāo)部門(mén),很快就干出了一番成就。這個(gè)故事有一個(gè)圓滿的結(jié)局,但這位化學(xué)師的上司真希望她更早地理解、承認(rèn)自身的愿望,這樣或許就可以讓她自己(以及她所在的研發(fā)團(tuán)隊(duì))免于經(jīng)受這段令人失望的插曲。 ????與上述監(jiān)理工程師和新晉營(yíng)銷(xiāo)專家相類(lèi)似的員工面臨一些涉及到理解自身和他人個(gè)性的復(fù)雜問(wèn)題。我們需要具備在這個(gè)領(lǐng)域進(jìn)行推理的能力,我稱之為“人際智商”(personal intelligence)。一旦我們對(duì)這方面的理解失敗,我們就可能做出有損我們的工作關(guān)系,或許還會(huì)傷及聲譽(yù)的錯(cuò)誤選擇。 ????我在2008年提出了“人際智商”這一概念,部分原因是為了整合心理學(xué)學(xué)界對(duì)于人們?nèi)绾卫斫庾陨砗退藗€(gè)性這個(gè)問(wèn)題的最新見(jiàn)解。這種理解包括對(duì)以下領(lǐng)域的新研究:自我認(rèn)識(shí),對(duì)他人的知覺(jué)(person-perception),為什么小孩似乎能夠“讀懂小伙伴的心靈”,以及我們?nèi)绾问褂米约核莆盏男愿裉卣髦R(shí)來(lái)預(yù)測(cè)別人的行為。人際智商就是推斷分析這種個(gè)性系統(tǒng)的能力。 ???? |
????Most of us would prefer to get through the workday without a scuffle. After all, very few of us are actively looking for a fight. ????That said, getting along with our colleagues is no walk in the park, and this tension can influence our performance. Sometimes, an employee in our department is simply the wrong person for the job -- their own grandiosity, critical nature, lack of interest, or incompetence leads to a toxic environment that drags everyone down. ????Consider this example: At one company, several engineering teams were understaffed, owing to a yearlong hiring freeze. The engineers felt overworked, and the CEO was concerned about missing long-term deadlines. The company formed a cross-team committee to decide how to fairly allocate new hires to the teams. However, the head of the committee was an independent-thinking engineer who had a reputation for being argumentative and critical of others. The committee easily agreed on where the first new hires should be allocated, but there were issues after that. The lead engineer wanted to assign the next hire to a protégé of his who ran a less-important team; other members objected that would misalign the organization. Rather than backing down, the engineer went to several committee members individually and argued with them in a way that they perceived as hostile and controlling. The committee members spent time discussing his behavior, and a few of them lost sleep over the issue. The whole process was far more time-consuming and messy than it needed to be. ????Or consider the research scientist in a pharmaceutical company who had hired a new chemist. She came with an amazing set of recommendations from her former colleagues, and indeed appeared remarkably talented. After a month or so, however, the new hire was performing at a barely adequate level. When the supervisor pointed out the discrepancy between his expectations and her performance, she explained she had fallen behind but would catch up. Unfortunately, the issue persisted. Finally, the supervisor called in a colleague from human resources to speak with her. Over a series of conversations with HR, she began to acknowledge that she no longer found her profession interesting and she needed a change. Six months after she was counseled out of the organization, she joined the marketing division of another firm, where she blossomed. This story had a happy ending, but the supervisor wished the chemist had understood and acknowledged her own desires sooner so she might have saved herself -- and his workplace -- some considerable disappointments. ????Employees like the supervising engineer and the newly minted marketing specialist face complex issues that involve understanding their own personalities and those of others. We draw on an ability to reason in this area I call "personal intelligence." When our understanding in this area fails, we can make poor choices that compromise our working relationships and, perhaps, our reputations. ????In 2008, I introduced the concept of "personal intelligence" in part to organize an emerging understanding I saw taking place within psychology of how people understand their own and others' personalities. This understanding included new studies on self-knowledge, person-perception, how children seem to be able to "read the minds" of their friends, and how we use our knowledge of traits to anticipate the behavior of other people. Personal intelligence is the capacity to reason about this personality system. |
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